Saturday, May 30, 2015
We just got back from a week in Montana celebrating the new marriage of Nick and Grace. We had just the very best time, as anticipated. Doug performed the ceremony and did an outstanding job. He challenged them (and all of us) to have a quality marriage and not just focus on the quantity or the amount of years together. The ceremony was at my parent's church and was followed by a cookie and milk reception.
We had a family dinner later that evening at an art center in Bozeman. At one point I went to the bathroom and came out to find Doug dragging a screaming Henry and holding a screaming Jack. Over the screams he told me was leaving and they were going to go to Wendy's. Someone deserved to enjoy the family dinner and so it might as well be me. We managed to talk through the screams and decided to beg the caterers for some food. She kindly offered the boys strawberries and bread and the moods improved greatly. We made it through the dinner without any other major issues and then were able to go drop the boys off at my parents house with a babysitter for the rest of the night.
We danced for several hours. Drank really great pour-over coffee. Begged the DJ to play Party in the USA. Laughed as Nick and his brother Matt did their dance. Bethany cried when a group of girls picked up Grace and a group of guys picked up Nick and they met in the middle to kiss. Mom and Dad danced but mostly just stood on the side and watched. Caden danced the entire time and got super mad if you asked him to join in. Pretty sure Doug and I had the most energy out of anyone there, because you take our children away for a few hours and new energy kicks in.
It was really just such a special day with so many beautiful moments. Nick and Grace have such a sweet relationship and it is going to be so fun to watch their love grow.
Friday, May 15, 2015
We went on a date to a new restaurant. Doug got the shrimp and grits and I had a salad and mac and cheese. We sat and looked out the pretty windows and talked and ate. After dinner we headed to listen to our favorite local live musicians (they actually played at our rehearsal dinner) and had some drinks. More good talks and time together.
The highlight of the night were the kind words spoken to each other. It is so easy to just move move move right on through days and weeks and years and we forget to stop, look at each other, and speak kind words over each other. It was a perfect moment and one I will not forget too soon. Marriage looks different now then it did seven years. A good different. We are in a deeper place in our relationship and needing each other more and in different ways than we needed each other in the beginning of our marriage. The team mate mentality is in the front of our minds daily. The questions of how we can help each other are vital and life giving. And the constant need for communication, care, and concern can get too easily pushed aside if we are not actively striving for these qualities in our relationship.
On our actual anniversary Doug had to work late. As I was giving the boys their bedtime bath he came home with two bouquets of flowers. Doug is not capable of buying just one bouquet of flowers, even though that is perfectly acceptable. If I am not careful I worry about the money he spent on two beautiful bouquets flowers, when really he should probably not be buying me flowers at all right now. But he is so good to always celebrate. He is a generous giver and I see him give to so many others, I gladly received this act of his generous heart and love to me.
Captures my life and this mother's day pretty perfectly.
I woke up and had a gift waiting (the book Yes Please, because I have very sophisticated taste in books) and coffee and Doug even made me some eggs. Charles came for a night and was able to join in the celebration. His first words to me were "Happy Mother's Day". He is the sweetest. I prepped for our lunch and then we headed to church.
The boys both made paintings for me in their classes. And Henry bruised his leg terribly on a pew as we were trying to leave. So I carried a screaming toddler out to the car.
We had a fun lunch celebrating Mother's Day and Karen's birthday. We had chicken salad and tuna salad sandwiches, pasta salad, fruit salad, chips, pickles, sparkling lemonade and strawberry shortcake for dessert.
Then we played in the living room and I attempted to get a picture with my two boys and this is what we ended up with.
Emily watched the boys that night so Doug and I could go out for our anniversary.
Overall, just the most perfect day. My heart is so full at the gift of being a mother.
We got fancied up and went to a charity event here in town to celebrate a friend's birthday. I was overwhelmed at the thought of making myself look presentable so I texted my stylist/friend forever, Hanna, and asked if she would come help. She did! And I will never know how she can get bobby pins to hold back my hair like this.
We went to dinner first at a hibachi grill and it took forever and we were not actually eating dinner until 9:30 pm. Like the time I am generally crawling into bed for the night. We got to the party at 10:30. It is not really my scene. I generally tend to stick to library play areas and the bulk bins at Sprouts. But it was good. Good to be pushed out of my comfort zone for a night. Good to celebrate friends. Good to dance with Doug and do something out of the ordinary.
We crawled into bed at 1:30 am and I think it took a full week for me to recover.