Monday, May 31, 2010

Man Day #1

Danae is out of town for the week with a rowdy group of teens which of course leaves Maxwell and I here in Tulsa....welcome to "Man Week 2010."

As soon as Danae left Maxwell took his shirt off and stretched in the freedom of his own skin. I could tell right then that Maxwell and I are of the same mind when it comes to guy time.

This morning I poured our coffee into our manly Montana-made mugs and I noticed Maxwell acting funny. He was gazing longingly at the refrigerator and I finally understood what was taking place. "Maxwell," I said, "there are no females around to try to impress, if you don't really like your coffee black I will put some milk in it for you." Feeling both embarrassed and relieved Maxwell said nothing but went and fetched the milk for himself...he really is growing up fast.

But not too fast...we have also decided to watch some really good "Guy Movies." I need to make sure young Max can handle a good guy movie, so I am starting him off with "Three Ninjas." If he does well with the MV= Mild Violence, then we might move up to something a little more intense... something like "Home Alone."

"Rocky loves Emily," and I love some good quality manly time with Maxwell. Check back for more exciting updates from "Man Week 2010."


Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Camping with Friends:

 1. Camping trip with friends.

This past weekend we completed our first task on our 10 things to do in 2010 list.We packed up the car and drove to a small camp ground in an even smaller town in Oklahoma. We drove down with the Odom's. Most of the drive was spoken in Arrested Development quotes. We got to the camp grounds and found our spot. We met up with the Goodrich's and the Sullivan's and set up camp.

The best part was sitting around the camp fire that night. It was fun laughing and talking and being together. Doug tried to lead several marriage strengthening exercises, but most of them got interrupted, by other conversation or just laughs.

We enjoyed eating good food, coming up with random questions and answering those random questions, our non-hike on paved trails that lasted about 30 minutes, and being together.

Then it got really hot and humid and we decided we could pack up the car and head home. On the ride home we talked about how blessed we are to have good friends. A common topic on here I feel like, but it is true. We are very very blessed.
The friend that moved away, and the friend that we miss on a weekly basis. I am glad they made the drive to be a part of our camping trip.

The Castle Couple. I love being his other half and his wife. And I love having wonderful couple friends that like to do fun things.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Baseball Memory:

On our way home from Chicago we drove through St.Louis, MO. Around 6:45 pm. We checked the radio to see if there was a Cardinals baseball game on to listen to on our drive. We found a pregame show. Doug looked at me and said, "We could go to the game". My eyes got big, and I did not know if he was serious or not.

Well, he took the exit, parked the car, and I ran to see if there were still tickets. They had some so I called Doug and asked if he seriously wanted to do this. He said yes. We hurried to park and found our seats. We made it just in time to see the players run onto the field.

Doug bought snacks and rootbeer and we enjoyed watching the game together. We did not let the fact that Doug had to work the next morning at 8:00 am get in the way, we did not let the frozen food in our car hold us back, and we did not think about the money that we spent (which is very very rare for us).

Looking back it was one of those perfect out-of-the-blue, fun things in life. We spent a while looking for our car in the parking garage after the game, got lost trying to get out of St.Louis, and only got about three hours of sleep that night...But it was all worth it.

[and the Cardinals won]

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Chicago Trip:

On the drive up to Chicago, Doug pointed out that we have traveled to Illinois the past three years during the month of May. I like finding these little patterns in life.

This time we were driving up to watch the big sister graduate with her Masters degree. We are super proud of her and all of her hard work and dedication. We arrived late Friday evening and were greeted with strong hugs and a wonderfully made up air mattress in the basement.

We drank a ton of coffee, ate wonderful food, saw old friends, and visited the good ol' youth group kids. Before we left town we drove down to the city. We like just walking around, so that is what we mostly did.

It was a wonderful fast trip. Nice to get away. A good opportunity to talk about dreams and plans. Wonderful moments with family members. A good change of pace.

Friday, May 14, 2010


Sorry that I have posted kissy photos the past two posts. I just can't help it.
I love kissing my husband.

And, we are all packed and ready to hit the road. We are heading to the old stomping grounds of Deerfield, IL for Big Sister's graduation from Grad School. We are super proud of her and excited to see her and the dad and the little (who is not so little anymore) brother!

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Anniversary Date:

Doug got off work earlier than I had expected. He helped me pick out what dress to wear [which I always like when he does that] and then headed downtown. He had found a place on-line to eat so we went to check it out, but it looked a little weird and it was not what we were wanting. So we walked over to the Mayo and decided to eat at Trula.

I ordered crab cakes with risotto and asparagus and Doug ordered the sea bass with grilled vegetables. It was one of the best meals I have eaten in a very long time.

Then we walked over to Topeca cafe for some coffee and dessert. The coffee was also some of the best coffee I have had in a long time.

As we were walking out of the coffee shop we heard this terrible noise on the street over. Doug ran over to find a car wreck with one car flipped upside down. It was terrible and intense, but the lady got out of the car fine. Praise.The.Lord.

We almost forgot to take our two year anniversary picture, so I snapped this one with my phone before we headed to bed. It was the perfect 2nd anniversary celebration.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Year Two:

On our anniversary last year someone told me that year two was waaaaaaaay harder than year one. At first it worried me, what if that is true? What is our year two is so hard? But then it became comical. For the past year we have joked with each other and our other married friends about how hard year two is. Looking back, it was not too bad at all. I might even go so far to say that it was better than year one.

Marriage is different for everyone. It is a journey and each journey takes a different path. We have been so blessed with two smooth years under our belt. We are blessed to have each other. We are blessed to know that when the hard years come [whenever they might be] that we will be able to look back and remember good years and good times. The good years and the times just keep coming, and I think it has to do with the fact that I am married to my best friend and my perfect match.

Happy Anniversary, darling.

Monday, May 10, 2010

My Mother-In-Law:

We had her over for dinner last night. We had to take good care of her since we are her only children that live here. I made Chicken Parmesan, bread, and salad. The chicken was weird and the bread was hard, but she was so kind and told me that everything tasted good. We enjoyed small desserts from Whole Foods and coffee.

Our conversation last night was about babies mostly. Since that is how one get's to celebrate Mother's Day.

They did not find out the sex of any of their children. And they almost named Doug, Benjamin. It is weird to think that your spouse was almost named something different. [I like the ring of Doug and Danae much better than Benjamin and Danae].

She always thought that she only wanted two children. But after they had Jeanette, she knew that her family was not complete. She said that she was worried that she would always feel that way. But soon after they had Doug she knew her family was complete.

She is always so great at encouraging us to enjoy these years and these moments that we have together with just the two of us. There is no pressure from her to 'give her grand babies'.

I hope and pray that Doug and I will know when we are suppose to move into the baby years, I pray that we will love and nurture our children like our parents did, and I pray that we love each other more when we have children than we do now.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

My Mother:

- Loves the color red (so red will always remind me of her)
- Birthed not one, not two, not three, but seven children
- Passed on a hair calic to all of her children
- Laughs easily and often (especially if Doug is around)
- Loved each one of us differently and beautifully (she has catered to my cuddle genes my whole life)
- Has always served and loved my father deeply
- Listens, gives advice, and always make bad things not that bad at all.
- Is a lot of fun to do things with.
- Is the coolest mom around.
Happy Mother's Day, Mom!

We love you!

Friday, May 7, 2010

Hamburgers and Dog Walks:

Last night we walked down to Weber's Grill for dinner. We both ordered the cheese burger, french fries, and root beer. It reminded me of my hometown dairyette, Barnett's. We enjoyed eating outside, but were a little distracted the entire time because there was a small wreck and we just sat and waited and waited and waited for the police to show up. They still had not shown up by the time we had finished our meal and walked home.

We talked about work mostly. Doug's job has been super stressful lately. Actually both of our jobs are pretty high stress, so we find ourselves talking about days at work in the evenings. We try not to go on and on and on, but we do need to get things out. Doug especially has a lot of things to process once he is out of the office. We both talk and we both listen. I think it is a good arrangement that we have worked out for now.

We also tried to find a dog park but could not find it. We ended up meeting Hanna and Ophelia on riverside and walked for just a little while. The wind was crazy and the dogs were in shock. But I think Maxwell is a fan of his cousin and I always enjoy conversations with Hanna.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

This Past Week We:

- Went on multiple evening walks. [I love our trees in our front yard].
- Spent some time with the Odom's. We played Sequence (the girls dominated just for the record), ate ice-cream and cookies, and Doug got recruited to play basketball on his first church league team.
- Attended Doug's first game. He fouled once. It was the best looking foul of the game. They lost by one point but they did have capri suns and orange slices at the end of the game to help console them.
- Then Doug thought that he needed some more basketball practice, so he played up at church with church friends. I even played in my work clothes and bare feet. Me and three men. I held my own and was scoring some points, but then Doug hurt his ankle. So the game ended. And he iced and elevated. Later that night Doug told me that I looked really cute playing basketball. He was proud of me. And we think his ankle is going to be just fine.
- Attended a murder mystery party for one of Doug's friends from high school. I was Helena and he was Wyatt. And neither of us was the murderer. Thankfully.
- Worked too much.
- Went on the great pant search of 2010. We ended up with two pairs for Douglas. They look really nice on him.
- One night I was not feeling well so I cuddled up to Doug, his response to me was "I'm too hot, I'll put a pillow here." We both got a good laugh out of it the next morning.
- Made spicy spinach pasta with mozzarella. An excellent spring meal. [ I adapted this recipe. We did not have any blue cheese. ]